Go to Radio Shack and buy a multimeter, two mini sets of screwdrivers (flat head and philips), and needle nose pliars.. Take out apart the DVD drive again and take the pcb with the pot off the laser assembly (unscrew). Put the meter on Ohms (start in the 2K range) and touch the leads of the meter together until it reads zero.
To measure the resistance, touch one lead to the pot screw and the other to the BOTTOM RIGHT silver solder pad of the pot (the drive is upside down). Prop up the pcb if you have to, the pad if hard to get to (and REMEMBER to unscrew the pcb from the laser assembly). Read the meter - if you get no reading ("OL"), the pot is set above 2K. Switch the meter to the 20K range, read it, and turn the pot screw left until the meter reads below 2K. Then switch to the 2K range. I think the normal setting is 1000 Ohms. Repeat until you get the between 850 and 950 Ohms (turn the pot to the right if you go to low, to increase).
The lower you go, the more intense the laser is. Too low (below 800 Ohms?) may burn your discs. My drive is set at about 870 Ohms. Normal games work fine, SONY DVD-R and Verbatim CD-RW. I haven't gotten any DVD-RW or CD-Rs to work. I suspect that most DVD-Rs work, though.